My child, if you wish to come after Me, you must deny yourself and take up your cross and follow Me. For if you wish to save your live you will lose it, but if you lose your life for My sake you will find it. Be willing to lay down your selfish desires and be My servant. Walk in kindness and humility. I will refresh you and be your peace. Instead of demanding your own way, choose to serve Me.

Matthew 16:24-25